"Alienating children after a divorce from a parent has a psychologically negative effect on the child or children 's psyche," said British Columbia University Canada professor.

On Saturday, Edward Crock, among a number of social workers at Yazd's Welfare Office, cited his research on "alienating children after a divorce," adding: "After a parent's separation, child custody is usually given to a parent, Unfortunately, one or both of them starts insulting and abusive of their ex-wife to get their child's attention, which is not at all a right thing.

He said joint parenting is a necessity and said: focusing on shared parenting rather than alienating parents prevents a child from being deprived of a parent's love and affection.

He believes that when choosing custody, the child should be questioned in the choice of parent and listener, but should not be decisive because the child does not have the physical and mental maturity to make the decision.

"Alienation causes a great shock to the child and has negative and devastating effects on his psyche, which unfortunately parents are unaware of," Crock said.

Referring to the parents' motives for abusing their child or children to the point of alienating the other, the Columbia University professor said: "The destructive role of selfishness and self-control should not be forgotten, and their aim should be to attract the child's opinion." He is infallible.

"In Canada, child custody is usually given to mothers, and mothers are not afraid of this because the court ruling is in their favor and most fathers are alienated from their children, but there are differences in every country," Crock said. They should not be ignored.

He said that in most countries fathers behave alienating behaviors from their mothers or children in most countries: "Exaggerated criticism and misconduct with children, apart from causing mental and emotional turmoil, is a form of self-hatred." It gives birth to a child who sometimes takes root in the depths of his being and is with him for the rest of his life.

He added: "In alienating a child against one of his parents, he unites with another parent and this leads the child away from the other parent."

"One parent teaches a child to fear and hate the other, and this creates a psychological risk for the child," said a Columbia University professor, referring to the learned and trained hatred of divorced children.

He noted: In alienating a parent, the parents are largely unaware of the profound effects of the injury on the child, so it is not important for them to argue in the presence of the child.

He said that in alienation, the child develops emotional duality: "When we teach the child to hate the parent, self-hatred is also created in the child, and because the child feels that the parent no longer loves him or her, He has left.

Referring to the necessity of therapeutic interventions in post-divorce parental alienation, Crock said, "Parent mediation training, divorce and parent-child relationships are among the interventions and programs that help parents unite."

The researcher noted: Most children and adolescents who are constantly exposed to abusive behaviors by their parents or vice versa do not have enough self-esteem and are often anxious and sometimes even self-disgusted.

According to Crock, there should be a meaningful relationship between parents after divorce and social workers have an important role to play.

He also noted that training should also be provided during the divorce petition and after the separation of the parents so that their children will be treated mentally and appropriately towards their parents.